“Mummy is going to get a gun so she can kill you.”
Last year Lord Justice Ward spoke out publicly against the “not untypical” practice of vengeful mothers poisoning the minds of children against their fathers[1]. Sadly, it is not untypical of what our members experience either. The father who kept the following diary of comments made by his 2 boys during contact visits over the last year assures us that none of these things his sons have been told about him by their mother are true.
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Child A |
Mummy says nanny beats me up |
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Child A |
I hate nanny – mummy says |
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Child A |
PC x comes to our house. He’s mummy’s friend and she makes him cups of tea. PC x takes you away because you are naughty. Mummy says you are naughty because you were outside our house last night when it was dark |
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Child B |
I don’t love you. I don’t want to live with you. Mummy told me |
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Child A |
I want to stay with you daddy |
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Child B |
I want to stay with you. I really miss you. Where have you been? I want to stay at nanny’s with you. |
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Child A |
Mummy’s scared of you. You attacked her and she is really really scared. |
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Child B |
You scratched her on the neck. You held her neck and she told the policeman. You scratched mummy’s neck. The policeman took you away – your horrible. |
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Child A |
Mummy says when we get out of the car we have got to run up to her |
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Child A |
I have got to be quiet – say nothing because mummy told me off. I have to be quiet. |
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Child A |
I want to phone you but PC x told mummy that she must not phone daddy because he is naughty |
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Child A |
Mummy says you stole us when we were babies |
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Child A |
I’m not allowed to kiss daddy mummy says |
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Child A |
mummy’s told me not to talk to you |
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Child A |
I love you daddy – I love you too A – I don’t believe you – Why? – Mummy’s told me never to believe you |
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Both |
B – (Half-sister’s name) told me not to run to the car. A – We have got to walk to nanny and run to mummy. |
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Child A |
Goodbye horrible granddad |
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Child A |
(to grandparents) You two are horrible – Mummy said |
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Child B |
It was lovely when we were babies because we saw you. We saw you every day when we were babies, it was lovely. |
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Child A |
If you don’t hurt mummy you can come round and see my toys. |
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Both |
A - Your naughty, mummy’s going to get a gun. B – So she can kill you. |
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Both |
A – You broke mummy’s car. You punctured her tyre. B – Mummy crashed her car and the paint peeled off |
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Child A |
Your nasty to mummy and you hurt her. You held mummy by the neck like this (Child demonstrated) |
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Child B |
Mummy says we are not allowed to change our clothes. (Man’s name) keeps telling us to shut up. |
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Both |
A – There is a photo of you at home. B – and mummy broke it into pieces |
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Child A |
(Child-minder’s name) is lovely. My mummy hates her. My mummy says she is horrible. |
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B |
Did you tell mummy you played with your cousins on Tuesday? Mummy says she does not like them. They are horrible and naughty |
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Both |
Mummy says daddy’s horrible |
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A |
I wanted to make you a card but my mummy would not let me. I wanted to say that I missed you but mummy would not let me. |
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B |
You kicked the bunk beds over when we were babies and you had been nasty. Mummy says that daddy was horrible. |
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B |
We are not allowed to go camping because mummy has said that we cannot go |










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